Do you ever feel like you are at an impasse about something in your life?
Something at work, a health-concern, a social dynamic. Perhaps something with a family member, a friend or your spouse feels stuck. Or, something in your mind or heart feels like you just can't get past it.
When you feel like you are at an impasse, physically, emotionally, psychologically, literally or in theory, what do you do?
Do you try to force something? Do you patiently wait long enough for the arrival of something that somehow releases the situation? Of course, there's often gradation surrounding and in between these two options.
I’m not saying that one automatically is better than the other. But, I do know one other thing about this kind of thing — that we are often fraught with impatience…. And, impatience, more often than not, comes down to some kind of battle related to trust...of something (or someone).
Impasses often involve assumptions that have become lodged and that seem immovable. It stands to follow, then, that release of impasses (or resolutions to them) are often about discovering assumptions that we didn’t know were involved. And, the not so funny thing about, assumptions is what they often lead to: conclusions.
Conclusions mask and solidify assumptions, often burying them completely.
This is where patience does come in. It takes some time (and effort) to make enough space to allow for a revelation of something...usually at the assumption level of things. Force may be efficient, but not always effective, especially in the long run.
Impasses invariably occur. They're a simple fact of life. Our response (openness) to them, though, can often result in unanticipated kinds of break-through.
