I've noticed...I'm most grateful for things that I have directly experienced. It is in these contexts that I more recognize what I have been given.
I became more grateful for a job after I lost one.
I became more grateful for community when it gave to me in my need.
I became more grateful for friendships after I experienced reconciliation in them.
I became more grateful for my wife when she forgave me.
I became more grateful for my children when they return home.
I became more grateful for God when I realized all that God has provided...not just to me, but to the whole world.