Whether it's your car keys, a key client, a job, or a friend; we all lose things in life.
There are the things you lose, and then there is the reason that you lost them.
And, more often than not, it’s not in fact just one reason. It’s multiple reasons. But, you can’t just say that you lost something for no reason. Because that’s rarely true.
The point might feel, though, like you need to make sure that you know the reasons (or the reasons), so that losing things doesn’t happen again. That’s not a particularly bad idea...especially if it's your keys, but probably for the other more significant things, too.
But, the more simple reality is that things are lost — if nothing else, things just change (few things stay the same forever) and it often feels like loss.
And, while it makes sense to try to figure out how to mitigate that, the greater opportunity might be to simply accept the reality of it.
Because it’s in the accepting of things that we actually become more capable of what we really need to learn from them. Many times, what is lost becomes an opportunity for something else to be gained. Life, after all, isn’t as much about learning how to desperately hold on and prevent losing things, as it is about acceptance and learning. The sooner we learn how to embrace things, as opposed to resist things, the sooner we can move into the more organic and healthy flow of reality. We can spend an awful lot of time (or waste a lot of it) trying to prevent something from happening and forfeit the much greater opportunity to be constantly growing with different and new things.
Growing is often not easy (thus our learned resistance to it). But, in spite of how it often feels, it also is what keeps us alive in healthy ways.
